A pleasing personality is easy to recognize but hard to define. If anyone asks me what makes me feel a person has a pleasing personality, I would say it is the way he walks, the way he dresses, his voice texture, his way of talking, the warmth in his behavior, and his level of confidence. Overall, a pleasing personality is a combination of attitude, behavior, and expression.
There are several factors one should consider while building a positive personality.
The first and foremost is character. Personality without character is just like good looks without goodness, which becomes unacceptable after some time. You can easily identify the sugarcoating. What this proves is that a lasting impression requires both character and charm.
Never forget LIFE is a boomerang. We get back in life what we give to others. If not from the same person, then from anyone around. Benjamin Franklin once said, “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself.” As I said in my last article, if you are not peaceful with yourself, you cannot maintain peace with others. You have to value yourself first to know the worth of others. Whether it is your thoughts, actions, or behavior, sooner or later they return with great accuracy. Treat people the way you want to be treated—with respect—on your way up, because you will be meeting the same people on your way down. Goodness has its own way of coming back, and that’s the law of nature. But if you do good with the desire to get goodness back in return, it is no longer goodness but rather a business.
The second most important thing that needs to be taken care of is EGO. It is the biggest hurdle in building a positive personality. It is nothing but unhealthy pride and is self-intoxicating in nature. An egocentric person has an “I KNOW IT ALL” attitude, and his world begins, ends, and revolves around himself.
Another deciding factor is to know the difference between self-interest and selfishness. Both are opposites. Selfishness is dangerous and destructive, whereas self-interest is based on positive values. Self-interest does not believe in a win-lose principle; rather, it says, “we both can win together.” It is unharmful in a relationship.
One more important feature is having an open mind, not an empty mind. An empty mind is a dumping yard. It accepts without evaluation. We get so influenced that we tend to forget about the cleanliness and positivity of our minds. If we do not tolerate a person who is dumping garbage inside our house, why do we allow others to dump garbage into our minds, either in person or through media? Don’t let others pollute your mind. Having an open mind makes you more flexible. It automatically sets a filter in your head to accept or reject ideas.
Can we change others’ behavior? The answer is NO. But we can definitely change ourselves. Others’ behavior is the reaction to our behavior towards them. We always see things not the way they are but the way we are. In order to create a positive environment around us, we should possess a positive personality and radiate positive energy and vibes.
